Embracing Change: A New Chapter Begins With Every Move

I read something yesterday, while packing away my things ready to move, that said that maybe along with the books, blankets and plant pots, you also pack away the person you were in that place. And this couldn’t feel more true. I’ve moved around so many times in the last couple of years, and although some homes have only been for a short while, I’ve always felt like it was a version of myself that I was glad to have met, but will never be with again.

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Moving around so much has taught me how much we change, even in just a few months, and how much we mould ourselves to our surroundings. We create new habits, new hobbies and new friendships, some of which we don’t associate with a place until we leave it. A move is therefore so much more than just a change of address; it's an opportunity to shed your old skin and make way for a new version - a different version -  of yourself. Moving is a chance to declutter not only your physical space but also your emotional baggage, and create room for fresh experiences and new opportunities.

Right now I feel unsettled, even though I’ve moved with friends. I haven’t explored my new area, found the local gym or marked the distance to my favourite coffee shops or supermarkets. So it all feels a bit new and strange. Yesterday was worse - the man with a van, never ending boxing, packing and then unpacking. But I also know that it’s a temporary feeling. I know that this is how I’ve felt immediately following every new move, whilst growing to love it months later. And I take comfort in that.

But it’s still change, and change feels uncomfortable at first. Below are some ways to embrace a move (and change at the same time!)

Declutter your physical space

You don’t need to move house to declutter your space. Maybe you’re settled where you are but still feel different in some way, or want to start fresh. This process is more than simply sorting through your belongings; it's about evaluating what helps you in your life now and what doesn't match your goals anymore. Getting rid of things can be like letting go of old feelings and making room for new ones.

Start by going through each room and ask yourself whether each item brings you joy, is necessary, or is a reflection of the person you want to be in your new home. Donate, sell, or recycle items that no longer fit into your vision for your future self. This physical decluttering can be a cathartic experience, creating space not only in your new house but also in your mind.

Let go of emotional baggage

Moving to a new house can help you let go of emotional baggage. Maybe your old home holds both good and bad memories that you're ready to leave behind. It's a chance to start fresh and move forward. You could write a letter to yourself, recognising what you've learned and being thankful for the experiences that shaped you in your old home. This can help you consciously release emotional ties to the past, allowing room for personal growth and change.

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Redefine your space

Your new house is a blank canvas waiting for your personal touch. Take this chance to change your living space to match the person you want to be. Experiment with new layouts, colours, and decor that feel right for the new you. This creative process can be incredibly empowering and help you picture the life you want in your new home.

Embrace new opportunities

One of my favourite things about moving to a new house is how it ends up being a catalyst for embracing new opportunities. I picked up a new hobby at my last house that was on my doorstep, and with that came a bunch of new friends. So whether it's a new job, new friendships, or a new lifestyle, change often brings fresh possibilities. Be open to the unknown and explore your new neighbourhood, meet your neighbours, and take advantage of the opportunities that arise.

Additional tips for making a big transition and change easier:

Set clear intentions

Before moving, take some time to reflect on your goals and aspirations. What kind of life do you want to create in your new home? Setting clear intentions will guide your decisions during the moving process and help you stay focused on your personal growth.

Create a vision board

Consider creating a vision board that represents your ideal life in your new house. Collect images, quotes, and symbols that inspire you and align with your goals. Place this vision board somewhere visible in your new home to remind you of your aspirations.

Meet your neighbours

Building connection in your area can be so transformative in helping you settle and build a home there. This doesn’t just have to mean literal doorstep neighbours, it can also mean local people in your community or gym classes. Introduce yourself to your neighbours, attend local events, and join community groups to establish a sense of belonging and support. Also frequent local coffee shops to make friends!

Take time to unwind

Moving can be tough, so it's important to take care of yourself. On my first night, to help unwind, I used my favourite eye wand, bedroom mist and scented candles, and then I read my favourite book. Set aside time for things that help you relax and feel better, like meditation, yoga, or reading. Especially if feeling a little unsettled - changes take time to adjust to so be kind to yourself. 

Stay open-minded

Be open to unexpected experiences and opportunities that may come your way. Sometimes, the best personal growth happens when we step outside our comfort zones and embrace the unknown.

Journal your journey

When I first moved to London in 2018, I started journalling my journey. I didn’t want to forget any places or people or conversations I was meeting and having along the way. And still now, I often don’t know how I feel about something until I write it down. When moving to a new place or going through a big life change, journalling can be a helpful way to document your experiences, emotions, and reflections during a period. It’s also a beautiful reflection tool to look back and see how far you’ve come.

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Celebrate the little milestones

I often say this for recovery, and celebrating little milestones really helped throughout my stroke journey. But we should always celebrate them, especially when going through anything that challenges and changes us! Whether it's unpacking the last box, making a new friend, or achieving a personal goal, taking time to acknowledge your progress can boost your confidence and motivation.


Although moving house comes with a host of changes, goodbye and reflections, those changes can be beautiful if you allow yourself to be courageous and brave and go forward with a positive mindset. This next chapter might be scary right now, but you’re soon to discover new facets of yourself and that’s exciting. What is coming will always be better than what is gone. Onward ever, backward never.

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