20 Things to Expect After Brain Surgery

Leading up to brain surgery, I was desperate to know how long recovery would take and how I would be feeling afterwards. I wanted to know whether I would be able to do certain things again and when it was possible to do so, if I could. I craved reassurance from someone that had been through it and felt that having an idea of what I was about to experience would make it all a little easier. And even though I gratefully made a lot of “brain buddies” from this experience, most of whom I’m still in contact with and meet regularly, their surgeries were so long ago that they couldn’t really remember the details of it. Which is great, by the way. I found myself daydreaming about when I would be able to say the same thing. Imagining it being so long ago that I really had to wrack my brain (no pun intended!) and think hard about life immediately after. 

Well, I’m not there yet. But through creating BITB I’ve received messages from people, about to have brain surgery, just wanting to know what to expect following theirs. Everyone is different and we all have wildly differing experiences. You might experience some of these, or all of these, or others that I didn’t. But one thing we all have in common is feeling like you’ve plummeted into a world that no one really seems to know anything about, and a little bit of insight from someone that has gone through it goes a long way.

1.Your senses are going to reset.

I naively didn’t give thought to the fact your senses might be affected whenever the brain is touched or suffers a trauma. But for the longest time I wasn’t able to use my electric toothbrush because it sounded like there was a constant drill to my head and I felt like my teeth were about to fall out. My senses were definitely heightened. I’ve also always been really good with spices – hotter the better – but I ordered quite a mild curry around two months after brain surgery which left my eyes and nose streaming and had me downing pints of milk. Thankfully this has normalised now and slowly did after introducing little things over time. 

2. Recovery takes time. A long time.

I know this sounds obvious, but I really felt I would be back at work, life resumed, after eight weeks. When eight weeks passed, I realised how crazy quick that timeframe was. There’s a lot I can do now that I couldn’t for a while, but there are still some things, like the lunges in my recent boxing class, that I can’t do yet because of my balance. I used to really beat myself up or compare myself to others when it came to things like writing and walking. But I’ve since learnt to be patient. Everyone goes at their own pace and life really isn’t a race. The important thing is that you’re patient with yourself and know that healing takes time. Plus, it’s so important that you celebrate those small wins. Carrying a hot drink up the stairs or mastering the escalators are by no means considered amazing for many other people, but to me they were major accomplishments at the time.

3. You will have the attention span of a gnat.

I repeated myself a lot, struggled to concentrate on small things and reading or watching TV was near impossible. My best friend cried when she first saw me. At first, I thought this was just because she was relieved to see me after everything. But only recently did she tell me that whilst it was partly because of that, it was mostly because I asked her about her weekend plans three times in the same sentence. Truthfully, she was scared to death of the temporary changes in my personality that I was showing. I was totally oblivious of the fact my attention span was so short or that I was incredibly forgetful, and you probably will be too. But expect that this might happen and thank your loved ones in advance for their crazy patience. 

4. Nerves take a long time to knit back together and regrow.

I didn’t experience any real nerve response for the first few months, and I was told that nerve damage can take between 6-9 months to heal. But then winter came and even the slightest bit of cool air still has the power to send chills down my spine, take my breath away and make me wince more than hearing long nails down a chalkboard. A bobble hat has been a godsend this winter! I also never stop being amazed by the brain as I can now twitch the right side of my nose when I really think about it. I find that mind-body connection fascinating. 

5. The surgery itself doesn’t hurt.

The good news is that the brain really doesn’t have any pain receptors and you’re given anaesthetic to numb your scalp.  

6. But, the headache does hurt.

The bad news is that whilst your brain might not have any pain receptors, your scalp definitely does. And when the anaesthetic wears off, the headache you experience after your head has been drilled open is brutal and can last for days. But you will be given painkillers, and all sorts of meds. I don’t really know what they give you. I just know it’s a blessing when they do.

7. The drugs will make you delirious.

I mean, I had a great time. I was rapping on the first night after brain surgery, much to the nurses dismay. My heart rate was creeping higher which made the machines beep outrageously, all whilst I should have been “resting.” But you kind of don’t know what you are doing or saying, you will just find it frustrating when others aren’t impressed by your jokes and hilarity and you seem to be the only one laughing. 

8. All the meds will probably make you constipated.

Whilst they’re great at numbing the pain, you probably aren’t going to go for at least a week. The doctors will give you (more!) meds for this.

9. Your throat will hurt from the breathing tube. And you will wake up desperate for a drink.

You will be crazy thirsty when you wake up from the operation because of it, but you won’t be given much water in case you throw it up.  

10. The catheter will hurt. More so than brain surgery.

That’s probably just a personal opinion. But it was without a doubt the most painful and uncomfortable thing of all. Not seeing? A breeze. Not being able to use a straw, feed myself or talk properly? Fine. And not being able to walk without assistance? I’ll take it. It made everything else seem effortless. At least it was a good temporary distraction from those bigger things. 

11. You won’t get any sleep whilst in hospital.

People are noisy, everything beeps, and you have your observations checked every hour, even at night. But the nurses are so patient and doing their best, despite often being burnt out and tired. So even if your sleeping pattern takes a few weeks to normalise again, you’ll be grateful for that time when you had someone constantly on hand.

12. Your scar will become super itchy and tight.

I thought I had gotten off light with this because I made it a few months down the line without any real discomfort. But I guess some would say I’m a late bloomer in that department because when it came, it was a bitch. Whenever it felt tight, I couldn’t move my head, sleep or shower. And then it felt like a vicious circle because my scar didn’t like the cream I was putting on it to loosen it, so I ended up with even more pain and discomfort, antibiotics and was back to not being able to move my head, sleep or shower.

13. You are going to experience frustration like never before.

At things you could do, that you now can’t. At being thirsty and not being able to drink. At knowing what you mean and what you want to say but temporarily forgetting the word or not being understood by others. At not being able to ‘hop’ out the hospital bed or move it higher or lower for comfort. I couldn’t see for a few days and the first stages of facial paralysis made it difficult to talk at all, so it took me the longest time to get the nurses attention for anything. They were amazing when they were there, but when they weren’t I felt like I was constantly shouting for their attention. In the end I’d give up, until the nurses would come over to find me crying and crossly telling them that I had been calling them for the longest time. Not their fault, but the beginning of some severe frustrated moments. 

14. Swallow your pride and ask for help.

I rushed back to London after five short weeks of being taken care of. It felt like enough time had lapsed and I found the lack of independence frustrating. My family and friends were worried if I would cope alone but I was adamant that I could do everything easily by myself. Admittedly, I did struggle at first just making porridge or doing my own washing. As much as my independent self thought I would have been able to, I soon realised there was absolutely no way I would have managed making myself food, washing my hair or going food shopping in the early days. I’ve never needed my mom more and began learning to ask for help.

15. Expect a constant internal battle with yourself.

Sometimes whenever I would get frustrated, I’d be faced with one of those internal battles with myself and my perspective. Sometimes I’d think my situation isn’t great; it’s a lot to take on and learn again when everyone else’s lives seem to just be carrying on as normal. Other times, I’d meet someone whose situation was way worse than mine and I’d realise how fortunate I was. This went back and forth for a while, which is one of the reasons I had ‘if you can, you must’ made into a bracelet.

As unideal and frustrating as your situation might be, it is actually okay to acknowledge that, so long as you remember that there is always someone worse off than you and always something to be thankful for. I began focusing on what I could do, and it kind of goes back to those small wins again; it might not be a lot, it may not be what you are used to for a while, but remember that there is someone out there wishing they could do whatever it is that you can.

16. Not everyone will understand you.

God, I felt so misunderstood all of the time. I was surrounded by people complaining about things that seemed so trivial and small to me because I’d just survived a major surgery, and was now learning how to do simple, everyday things again. That’s ok. The more time that passes, when it isn’t so fresh, this feeling wades and everything slowly falls back to normal. But it’s a great reminder to give you perspective when you do find yourself sweating the small things, or guiltily taking those everyday things for granted.

17. Things begin to fall into two categories.

When I first moved back to London, my room was the exact same. Of course it would be, it had only been five weeks. But I felt different and like much more time had lapsed than really had. I had a major clear out and spent a day removing items from my life ‘before.’ It suddenly felt like everything now fell into two categories; before brain surgery and after brain surgery. 

18. People’s reactions will surprise you.

They will act in such different ways that you won’t be able to predict who will do what. Some will be amazing and will visit you in hospital, send you fresh fruit hampers and flowers, and check in on you constantly. I had messages and cards from people I’d not spoken to for years that just wanted to reach out to send me their love and tell me I could contact them if I needed anything at all.

But then there are others that you will expect to be there that will suddenly drop off the face of the earth or dismiss what you’ve been through completely. There’s no denying that this is confusing and infuriating. But, you begin to realise it’s not really on your radar how others act. You’ll have bigger things to focus on, like recovering and getting stronger. And sometimes, it’s not a bad thing to learn who will actually be there in a crisis. Besides, the relationships and bonds with the people that are there will flourish so much.

19. The entire experience is a bit surreal.

I’m still adapting to life after brain surgery, and still having a myriad of appointments, so it doesn’t feel quite over for me yet. But despite that, my surgery was almost seven months ago and when I think of the fact I actually even had brain surgery, and look at photos from being in hospital, it honestly feels surreal. And random. And massively crazy

20. You’ll realise how short life is.

And because of it, you’ll appreciate the small things much more. You’ll eat the cake because you’ll realise life is short. You’ll get emotional when you hear music on the radio realising you haven’t listened to anything in the longest time. You’ll take in stunning scenery, really take it in, and enjoy the fresh air. You’ll put down your phone much more and be more present in the moment. And you’ll start to question your life before, in a good way, and whether it’s actually how you want to be spending this life that you now feel so lucky to have.

One of my favourite quotes is that we all have two lives; the second one starting when we realise we only have one. And this couldn’t feel more apparent after brain surgery. Whilst it kind of feels like you’ve entered a world you didn’t know existed, and been forced into a club without choice, know that you’re not alone. The others members of this club understand you. ☺ 


  • I have been a healthy person with no other issues at all. in February while sleeping, i got my first seizure at 6AM that lasted 4 mins. Wife notices and called 911 so ambulance came and took me to the hospital for check up. Realized i have a glioma brain tumor and will need a surgery as the first step of the treatment, i came across this blog because i wanted to make sure i understand how the life is going to be after surgery. My surgery was on April 4, 2022 and it was sucessful. Surgeron was able to remove 85% of the original 8 cm tumor.

    I did get some of the 20 items described above but not all, possibly i was very lucky with recovery and I am doing very well. I almost feel 99% of myself before seizure right now just advised not to run for a week or so. So other than not running and not lifting 20+ pounds weight, I was back to myself with in less than 3 weeks which it seems like a really great progress after seeing so many comments.

    I will need radiation and chemotherapy to manage and treat remaining 15% of the tumor. The treatment starts next week and i cannot wait to give this tumor a fight and show that you got no chance here! I have already made some physical activity and diet habit changes before surgery and plan to focus even more in coming months and year, hope to be able to continue and fight this off for long time. Hoping also that i don’t have to fight too long and get victorious quickly!

    Certainly the diagnosis has changed me a lot, but i have become more positive and has given me more mental toughness. I always liked the quite mentioned above “Everyone has two lives, and the second starts when you realize you have one”. I am just living that now! Whatever life is left, i will be positive and powerful and show loved ones that they have supported and entrusted a very right and strong person. Can only see Progress ahead! God Speed! If I can help and support anyone please reach out snehalny@gmail.com

  • BobbyYB my date was also the 4-6-22! We’re brain surgery buddies that’s so cool!
    I relate with so many of these points, mostly with the one that it’s so weird to be able of saying „I’ve had brain surgery“ and being thankful for little things like taking a shower. It’s almost like a hobby now haha

  • I just fou d out on April 22nd that I have a large brain tumor. I’m waiting for an appointment with a neurosurgeon. I’m really scared. This came out of nowhere. I’ve been having migraine headaches for over 5 years so they sent me for an MRI. It showed my pituitary gland was enlarged and that I had had a stroke. So then I had to come back for another MRI with contrast. That’s when they found the brain tumor. I’m really scared and praying for a good outcome.

    Wanda Hanks Loveless
  • Just had my brain surgery on 4-6-22. I found this post looking for good info. Still coming out of it all. Thanks for your post.

  • Hello. I just wanted to thank each of you for sharing your story. I too had brain surgery (16 hours). It has changed me physically and emotionally, but I am blessed. Reading your posts has made me realize, I am not alone and I’m not crazy!


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